On today’s episode of No Bullshit with Alex Willis, Alex will guide you to take a look at various areas of your personal lives, and assess your happiness. Instead of repeating boring motivational catchphrases, he shares key ways to visualize the success you want in life, and how you can turn them into actionable goals right away.
Think about your perfect life: your dream job, dream partner, dream lifestyle… is it possible to “have it all”? What does having it all even look like? Often, many of us focus solely on improving our professional lives. But what about our personal life?
On today’s episode of No Bullshit with Alex Willis, Alex will guide you to take a look at various areas of your personal lives, and assess your happiness. Instead of repeating boring motivational catch phrases, he shares key ways to visualize the success you want in life, and how you can turn them into actionable goals right away.
In our final segment, The Frame Out, we take everything we’ve learned and take action today! What can we do right now to better our lives, so that our “someday” goals actually come true?
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[00:00:00] Alex Willis: Hey, what's up guys? Super, super excited to have you back here where we begin to frame out the habit all lifestyle. Now, open to this point we've talked about what does it take? How do you get to that point? How you have to visualize things, how you have to measure certain areas of your life to know where you're starting, how you have to really begin to develop a strong why.
[00:00:29] Alex Willis: I believe it was Simon Sinek that talked a lot about that in business, but it also applies to your life. Right. And our last segment, we also talked a lot about. Six myths that you have to overcome so that you really can begin to have it. All right, so, so in this segment we're gonna frame it out and really bring it all together.
[00:00:47] Alex Willis: Bring it all together, my friends, right? We've talked about several books today, but one piece that I really wanna talk about, which is called Goal Setting to the Now, right? Goal setting to the now is a great concept. So, so what does that mean? Goal setting to the now understand this, most of us, we set someday goal.
[00:01:08] Alex Willis: Think about someday, someday, someday, man, I'm going to do this someday. Oh, I'm gonna be X, Y, Z. Someday I'm going back to school. Someday I'll have this kind of bank account. And the problem is we have no connection to that someday. So usually for most people, someday never come. Right. Someday never comes down.
[00:01:31] Alex Willis: How do you begin to do this? Well, this is what we like to call reverse engineering your life, right? So, so you go from your someday goal, someday. Someday I'm going to do this. And you begin to back it down and say, okay, well wait, wait, wait, wait a minute. If someday I'm gonna do this, then in five years I need to be here.
[00:01:50] Alex Willis: If someday I'm gonna do that right now, you go from there to say, okay, well if I'm gonna do this in five years, then that means within a. I probably need to be right here, right? Think about that. Probably need to be right here, right? And, and, and go from there to say, okay, well, if in a year I need to be right here, that means this month, in order for me to reach that yearly goal, I need to be right here.
[00:02:14] Alex Willis: Which means this week I need to probably be here, which means today I need to do this on my to-do list, which means right now, even to the minute I need to be doing this. So look at what we've just done. We take your Someday goal and we tie it all the way back to what you're doing today on your daily to-do list, daily activities, branching it out.
[00:02:37] Alex Willis: Now we're not talking about feeling your whole day, my friends, either with this, we're saying you've planned it out such and such a way that whatever piece you have to do today, tying back to your Someday goal, right? So that everything begins to lock in place. You are moving toward that goal. This makes us extremely excited and happy because we're actually pursuing something and we're seeing the results even though we don't have the goal yet.
[00:03:05] Alex Willis: The simple fact that we're putting in the work and we know that what I'm doing right now in this moment is tying to my someday goal helps us out. It helps us be ultimately successful. Right? So I wanna ask you a question. What is your goal? What's your Someday day goal? I want you to think about that. And here's what I need you to do.
[00:03:25] Alex Willis: Ask a couple questions. I have a couple questions on my computer. I want you to think about why is this goal important to you? Why, why? The next question is, uh, what will accomplishing the goal do for your life? What will it do? Last but not least, what will happen if you do not accomplish this goal? Right?
[00:03:42] Alex Willis: By asking those three questions, it can kind of help you begin to churn, churn on that someday goal, right? So, I'm gonna put myself under the bus right now. What's Alex's someday goal? Ooh, you ready for this one? My friends? I even know the top here. Someday. Someday. But I'm gonna go and say at age 80, 80, I want to be the fastest man in the world.
[00:04:07] Alex Willis: In the 400, 200 and 100 at 80 years old in my class division, in the 80 year old bracket. I wanna be the fastest man in the world. Not only the fastest man in the world, but the fastest man in the world in three events. It's never been done. Fastest man in the world, in the 400, 200 and 100, right? So, so that's my someday goal.
[00:04:29] Alex Willis: So, so why, why is this goal important to me? Well, it's important to me for a few reasons. One, it's never been done. So I will love to do something as I age gracefully, but still be in great shape. Also, I want to let my grandkids see granddad compete in my mind, I visualize them seeing granddad in the Master Track event right running to break the world record in those events, man, to me, that gets me excited to say, man, my grandkids can see an 80 year old dude.
[00:05:00] Alex Willis: Kicking ass and taking names, right? So, so it helps me out with that right there. And, and for example, what happens if I do not accomplish it? Well, to me, if I don't accomplish it, man, it will be disheartening for me. I'll be honest with you, right? Because I've even starting my training right now, next year I'm joining the masters in, in the 40 plus division.
[00:05:18] Alex Willis: So I can start training and start actually seeing what I got, right. Start competing a little bit here so I get better with it. So, so understand that's my someday day goal. So I'm even saying, Hey, this is my someday at 80 goal. So it means that, hey, listen, I need to do this in five years, this in one year, this in a month, breaking it all the way down to my workouts and those type things, right?
[00:05:38] Alex Willis: I'm actually looking to go and try to meet the guy who actually currently holds the world record in two of the events. He is a phenomenal guy, 71 who holds the record in the 400 as well as the 200. He's currently training for the hundred. I need to see this dude. Training regimen. So one day I could beat these records, right?
[00:05:54] Alex Willis: But, but that's the someday goal that pushes us and drives us, right? So by doing that, it helps you out. Now, once you become clear of your someday goal, help you frame this thing out, you need the time block. Time block, when are you going to get it done? And what do I mean by that? I'm talking about the work that it takes in between to get to the Someday goal, because most people have the Someday goal floating out there.
[00:06:19] Alex Willis: They've never tied it back to today, as well as they never set time aside to actually do the freaking work, right? So what do you have to do? Well, once you tie it back, once you begin to think about the principles of what it takes to get there, you have to block time in your schedule and your day and your week, and your month.
[00:06:35] Alex Willis: To say, I'm going to get it done during these times so that you can ultimately be successful. When you could begin to do that, you could begin to see progress towards your someday goal. And similar to the Dominoes, as I said in our last segment, when you begin to see momentum, when you begin to see progress, my friends, it is hard to stop progress.
[00:06:56] Alex Willis: Like that works on both sides, right? Momentum, right? You see it in sports. You can tell the team that's going to win, man, most sides. Because you can tell when momentum picks up on a team, you're like, oh boy. Unless something just crazy happens, it's going to be very, very difficult to stop. Right. So that's how it is with you with those goals.
[00:07:14] Alex Willis: If you could begin to implement that kind of stuff, it helps your tongue with, now, how do you hold all of this together? Well, you hold it all together with this little thing called accountability. Accountability and, and what's accountability? Well, Number one, it it's you holding yourself accountable. But to take it a step further, it's you actually number one writing it.
[00:07:36] Alex Willis: No. Most people say, yeah, man, I know what I'm going to do. I'm doing it right here. No, no, no. I have a journal. I, I don't have it in the office with me right now. It's upstairs in my upstairs office. But I, I have a journal that has all of my life goals in it. When I think of another one, I write it, Ooh, I wanna do this.
[00:07:54] Alex Willis: Oh yeah, I would love to have that. Boom. Right. Now, understand this, Harvard did a study and they showed this, that individuals with written goals are 40% more likely to succeed. So understand that you have a 40% greater chance of getting it simply by writing it down on paper. Simply because you wrote it down, you have a 40% chance of doing that thing right now.
[00:08:17] Alex Willis: Here's the crazy part about it. A so 40% chance that you're more likely to succeed, right, than the other person. Now, here's the crazy part. Individuals with written goals and weekly accountability are 80% more likely to succeed. So think about that simply by writing it down, telling someone else about it.
[00:08:37] Alex Willis: Letting them hold you accountable. You are 80% more likely to actually get shit done, my friends. Right? So if you could begin to apply those things, it helps a ton for you. Alright, now as we talk about closing this segment, I need you to think about a couple things. A couple things for me. There's one book, it's a long book, but man, it's a good book, but it is long.
[00:09:00] Alex Willis: I'll be honest, my friends, it's called Solve for Hat. How to solve like solving a math problem for hap. Now, the biggest thing I got out of this book I got, I'm gonna give you the cliff notes on it. The biggest thing that I got out of this book was this, that each and every one of us, and this is important as you go on your journey and as you get momentum going towards your goal, each and every one of us has what we like to call a glass stealing of how much success we think we can handle.
[00:09:33] Alex Willis: All of us have a glass ceiling of how much success we think we can handle. Now, here's the crazy part about life. The closer we get to that ceiling, right, the closer we get to that ceiling, the more we begin to self-sabotage ourselves to knock ourselves back down. So have you ever heard those statements by people?
[00:09:53] Alex Willis: Oh man, life is just, it's just too good to be true right now, man. Things are going so well. I know something bad's gonna happen soon. Wow. Wow. Why does something bad have to happen? Right? It's called self-sabotage, right? So understand. What we have to do though, is we have to get comfortable winning and comfortable being successful and comfortable having to have it all lifestyle and actually expect to do it so that you begin to not only get close to that ceiling, but you continually begin to raise your ceiling for it.
[00:10:21] Alex Willis: For what you expect. You begin to expect more out of yourself, more outta life. And as you begin to do that, holding yourself accountable with your wit written goals, you'll begin to see momentum shifting your favor in an unbelievable way, my friend. Right? So with that being said, I want you to tune into our first segment, the takeoff, analyze your life where you are, look at that, the will of life, and begin to be brutally honest with yourself.
[00:10:46] Alex Willis: But don't beat yourself up. From there, I want you to think about what is it that you want? Write that vision. Very, very clear. Come up with a strong why to keep you connected to that vision. Be willing to hold yourself accountable by writing it down, as well as telling others so that they can hold you accountable and be willing to accept the concept that you can continually grow and continually have success and bad things don't have to happen in your life.
[00:11:15] Alex Willis: If you can begin to do that, my friend, you can truly begin to have what we like to call the habit online. So I wanna personally thank you for tuning in to No Bullshit with Alex Willis, the number one go-to source for leadership development in the construction industry. Be sure to subscribe to YouTube or your favorite podcast platform so that you can be notified when we drop that next episode.
[00:11:37] Alex Willis: Trust me, you don't wanna miss it. And hey, please, please understand we're here for you, my friends. We are here to make you phenomenal leaders. We want the best for you. So please, please, please leave your comments, leave your concerns, leave your challenges, because we wanna answer those so that we can truly help you be phenomenal both and work as well as at home.
[00:11:56] Alex Willis: So until next time, see you later my friends.